Such a great reminder and lesson. I felt every word of it. I've been going through something similar during January, too much hustling, being the strong, perfect manager for too long and I almost broke down. A great read to remind us of the truly important bits of our lives. It's not the tech world, it's the natural world.
But... ohhh girl, can I take your flight to Florida for you?? 😁😁
Ahhh the plane has left yesterday at noon hahah so sorry. It was a weird feeling to be lying in bed and still getting text messages from the airline about gate changes.
Hope you can rest up well too, especially after a busy January! And you're right, it's not just the tech world, the world we're all in spins so fast if we're not careful
This really resonated Carmen. I actually think my mother grew up like this and I think it is me who will break the cycle, but I have only recently learnt this, the hard way of course. Last year nearly broke me and I realised I was not super human. I have been shut down from this community for a few months now, and I am trusting that it is because I need to rest. So, rather than force the words, I will be back when it comes. I have learnt about my human design, not sure of you know much about your own, but I am a manifester, which makes so much sense when I found out that my energy comes strong and in bursts. To work with it when it comes and love and embrace when it is my time to rest. It's taken me a long time to be ok with it, but seeing women like yourself, embracing this too, their own wintering, whenever that may be, keeps me in touch with it. Thank you for sharing beautiful xx
Oh Lisa, I'm so glad it resonated, because sometimes we think we're alone in all of it, until we share. So I'm glad I did and it's good to hear you're caring for yourself in a similar way, aligned with your needs! Well done you on breaking some cycles, it's no easy thing to do.
And yess to resting and giving our mind and heart the time they need. HUman design is so fascinating I know so little about it, just that I'm a 4/6 generator and it did tell me a few things but not so much about resting, maybe I need to look into it again. Good idea.
Love how you weaved your physical reality with your inner reflections in such a seamless way - great writing!
And also honored for the mention in such an important piece 🫶🏼 I feel you 💯 I’ve always been terrible and still am, to ask for help. It’s been out of survival necessity I’ve had to develop that skill at least with my husband but other than that… still very bad. Never really had much family support either, I’ve never had any childcare or other support groups. But it’s also interesting, because sometimes I also find relief to for example live far from my family… because I am freer to *not life constrained by the world they grew up in * as you mention. It was always a tip toe dance as I choose to raise my children differently and this created more pressure than help. So yeah…. But to ask…. It’s a tricky balance this!
Please take care and hope you feel better soon!! We’ve had the flu circulating for the past couple of weeks too, it’s been a heavy season xx
Ohhh thank you Elin, happily taking a compliment from the queen of writing haha thank you!
I feel like my fever got some wild thoughts and creative juices flowing, just need to ensure they get written down before they evaporate again.
I hear you - the relief because you can live life at your own terms, independently without needing to explain yourself or your choices. Maybe not asking those people then lol. Sometimes I find already the smallest asks for help interesting ones, like do I really need to chase the shop up and down to find something because I am determined I found it the week prior but for some reason it got moved and I cannot find it now...or do I just ask for help.
Or when taking public transport with luggage and kids...it's interesting to observe whether people offer help or whether they need to be asked, or whether we can't be bothered to ask someone....
Hope you're on the mend, I feel like the flu got us all, what a wild winter. xx
Yes these are all interesting reflections! The hardest part for me is family. In the grocery store (or any store) I always ask before even looking lol can’t be bothered to waste time looking xD so you’re right it’s definitely so circumstance dictated. Love observing people too… you learn so much 🙏🏼 yeah it’s dragging out here…. Can’t wait to feel better, managed to get in a good hike (in the rain lol) today with the kids in carriers so at least it’s on the right way 🫶🏼❣️✨ also… can’t get over that I got references rhe queen of writing… I’m gonna sit with this one for a bit 😍🙏🏼
How beautifully inspiring it is to see other women making the powerful choice to rest. These fills me with hope and gratitude. I truly hope you feel better soon. This was a really heart felt read xxx
Oh Lauren! Thank you! 💕 I was so unsure about this piece, it felt so important to share and yet so raw and real. I’m glad it resonates and yes to more rest! Doing is my coping mechanism it’s so hard for me to slow down and this lesson was just too beautiful, once I was ready to receive it. I’m on the mend, no more fever, no more pains. Just cough and blocked nose. On sick leave for another week and while everyone’s enjoying Florida’s, I’m resting up at home and wouldn’t want to change it. Hope you’re all through the worst of the winter coughs and colds now too! Sending you love xxx
I’m so glad you are on the mend and giving yourself time to truly recover. It’s always tempting to rush back out when we start to feel a little brighter but giving your body the chance to heal fully is just such a gift. Thank you… we are still in the depths of yet more coughing it seems… but I am praying for a let up soon! Xxx
sending you strength to get through yet another wave of coughs and runny noses.
Yes it's so tempting to rush back and jump on the racing train of life again. Just earlier did I have a chat with a colleague who is flying to Florida today. She was also sick last week but decided to pump herself full of steroids and whatever Irish doctors prescribe and fly, still not fully back on her feet. I'm so glad I decided to not push myself in that way. x
Thank you for this Carmen, it resonates deeply. I went through an extended stage of being deep within hustle/HIIT/deprivation culture and it left me extremely burn out. It was a long journey of learning to soften and nourish myself properly to really get better. I am so glad you chose yourself and your wellbeing, thank you for sharing your thinking and your process xx
Such a great reminder and lesson. I felt every word of it. I've been going through something similar during January, too much hustling, being the strong, perfect manager for too long and I almost broke down. A great read to remind us of the truly important bits of our lives. It's not the tech world, it's the natural world.
But... ohhh girl, can I take your flight to Florida for you?? 😁😁
Ahhh the plane has left yesterday at noon hahah so sorry. It was a weird feeling to be lying in bed and still getting text messages from the airline about gate changes.
Hope you can rest up well too, especially after a busy January! And you're right, it's not just the tech world, the world we're all in spins so fast if we're not careful
Ah damn! You should have posted this earlier. ;)
I hope you take your time and get better without much trouble. Hugs!
This really resonated Carmen. I actually think my mother grew up like this and I think it is me who will break the cycle, but I have only recently learnt this, the hard way of course. Last year nearly broke me and I realised I was not super human. I have been shut down from this community for a few months now, and I am trusting that it is because I need to rest. So, rather than force the words, I will be back when it comes. I have learnt about my human design, not sure of you know much about your own, but I am a manifester, which makes so much sense when I found out that my energy comes strong and in bursts. To work with it when it comes and love and embrace when it is my time to rest. It's taken me a long time to be ok with it, but seeing women like yourself, embracing this too, their own wintering, whenever that may be, keeps me in touch with it. Thank you for sharing beautiful xx
Oh Lisa, I'm so glad it resonated, because sometimes we think we're alone in all of it, until we share. So I'm glad I did and it's good to hear you're caring for yourself in a similar way, aligned with your needs! Well done you on breaking some cycles, it's no easy thing to do.
And yess to resting and giving our mind and heart the time they need. HUman design is so fascinating I know so little about it, just that I'm a 4/6 generator and it did tell me a few things but not so much about resting, maybe I need to look into it again. Good idea.
Sending you love xx
Love how you weaved your physical reality with your inner reflections in such a seamless way - great writing!
And also honored for the mention in such an important piece 🫶🏼 I feel you 💯 I’ve always been terrible and still am, to ask for help. It’s been out of survival necessity I’ve had to develop that skill at least with my husband but other than that… still very bad. Never really had much family support either, I’ve never had any childcare or other support groups. But it’s also interesting, because sometimes I also find relief to for example live far from my family… because I am freer to *not life constrained by the world they grew up in * as you mention. It was always a tip toe dance as I choose to raise my children differently and this created more pressure than help. So yeah…. But to ask…. It’s a tricky balance this!
Please take care and hope you feel better soon!! We’ve had the flu circulating for the past couple of weeks too, it’s been a heavy season xx
Ohhh thank you Elin, happily taking a compliment from the queen of writing haha thank you!
I feel like my fever got some wild thoughts and creative juices flowing, just need to ensure they get written down before they evaporate again.
I hear you - the relief because you can live life at your own terms, independently without needing to explain yourself or your choices. Maybe not asking those people then lol. Sometimes I find already the smallest asks for help interesting ones, like do I really need to chase the shop up and down to find something because I am determined I found it the week prior but for some reason it got moved and I cannot find it now...or do I just ask for help.
Or when taking public transport with luggage and kids...it's interesting to observe whether people offer help or whether they need to be asked, or whether we can't be bothered to ask someone....
Hope you're on the mend, I feel like the flu got us all, what a wild winter. xx
Yes these are all interesting reflections! The hardest part for me is family. In the grocery store (or any store) I always ask before even looking lol can’t be bothered to waste time looking xD so you’re right it’s definitely so circumstance dictated. Love observing people too… you learn so much 🙏🏼 yeah it’s dragging out here…. Can’t wait to feel better, managed to get in a good hike (in the rain lol) today with the kids in carriers so at least it’s on the right way 🫶🏼❣️✨ also… can’t get over that I got references rhe queen of writing… I’m gonna sit with this one for a bit 😍🙏🏼
How beautifully inspiring it is to see other women making the powerful choice to rest. These fills me with hope and gratitude. I truly hope you feel better soon. This was a really heart felt read xxx
Oh Lauren! Thank you! 💕 I was so unsure about this piece, it felt so important to share and yet so raw and real. I’m glad it resonates and yes to more rest! Doing is my coping mechanism it’s so hard for me to slow down and this lesson was just too beautiful, once I was ready to receive it. I’m on the mend, no more fever, no more pains. Just cough and blocked nose. On sick leave for another week and while everyone’s enjoying Florida’s, I’m resting up at home and wouldn’t want to change it. Hope you’re all through the worst of the winter coughs and colds now too! Sending you love xxx
I’m so glad you are on the mend and giving yourself time to truly recover. It’s always tempting to rush back out when we start to feel a little brighter but giving your body the chance to heal fully is just such a gift. Thank you… we are still in the depths of yet more coughing it seems… but I am praying for a let up soon! Xxx
sending you strength to get through yet another wave of coughs and runny noses.
Yes it's so tempting to rush back and jump on the racing train of life again. Just earlier did I have a chat with a colleague who is flying to Florida today. She was also sick last week but decided to pump herself full of steroids and whatever Irish doctors prescribe and fly, still not fully back on her feet. I'm so glad I decided to not push myself in that way. x
Thank you for this Carmen, it resonates deeply. I went through an extended stage of being deep within hustle/HIIT/deprivation culture and it left me extremely burn out. It was a long journey of learning to soften and nourish myself properly to really get better. I am so glad you chose yourself and your wellbeing, thank you for sharing your thinking and your process xx