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Hi Carmen! I just found this post I really like the idea of 80%. I've found myself getting lost in trying to find "the perfect" solution or (in these days, gifts). It's like that habit goes on autopilot if I'm not present and takes up a whole day unnecessarily 🤦‍♀️ Thank you for reminding me about the concept of not giving everything my all, all the time. When we do so, we might miss what's truly important to us 💚

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Hi Julia, so wonderful to connect. Sometimes it seems the universe knows what we need to read 😅

You’re surely not alone, the holiday season is likely the time where everyone is trying to be the most perfect in all aspects of life. So much extra and unnecessary stress on our shoulders.

Hope you get to slow down soon and take things only 80% as serious 💕🎄

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It sure does!

That's so true, I think many people expect themselves to do so many things on top of what they already do. I know I've been caught in that trap before. It can take away some of the magic from this season. Being mindful is so important 😊

Thank you, and you too! ❄️🙏

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I find so much of myself in you, Carmen!

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Ha, I hope it’s the “good parts”. No, joke aside, we’re all humans right so when we let down the facade and show what’s really going on, we realise how much others can relate. Sending you hugs Mohika!

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Love this! There’s quite a famous journal article amongst music educators called ‘The good “enough music” teacher’, and that concept has always stuck with me: “The concept of ‘good-enough’ is very apt, suggesting not some idealised perfection but simply moving in a positive direction” 🎶✨

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Love that there’s a book on this and totally makes sense it’s in the music space - all forms of art are too often trying to be perfect.

Did you feel though the book took some of the worries away or did you have to learn your way?

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I still think you have to find your own way (much as in life!)

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Oh my gosh, this is exactly something I have been working on at work for the past couple of weeks! I tend to always want the optimal solution that just may not be possible, but I’ve been talking with my closest colleague about learning to let things be “good enough”. That I can’t always provide the most optimal solution or create the optimal situation - and that it is ok. I am working so hard on giving myself space and permission to let things just be and trust in the process.

I am taking this message from you as another sign to continue to work on this! 🫶🏻 Thank you! xx

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I love when our words really come at the right time for someone else 🫶 and I feel you! We’re in a similar mission, trusting things are already where they need to be in this exact moment. Not great for inpatient perfectionists for sure 😊

Hope this week has been a bit less perfect and more human for you 💕

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Sighhhh that school experience is much like mine. I would overprepare for a presentation, trying to be perfect, and a classmate wouldn't even know how to change page on the projector, and would forget what she was saying, and would get sympathy from teachers and classmates and get my same grade. PREPOSTEROUS!

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Oh god, I feel seen Barbs! funny how we remember these situations like they were yesterday. 👀

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Being salty keeps us young. Marinated even;)

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Hahahaa

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"I’m sure the idea comes across, I’m sure it resonates with those who needed to hear these words."

This line really resonated with me. It's a powerful reminder that our words and actions can have a profound impact on others, even if we don't strive for perfection.

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Absolutely and well said Alexander! Our words will never resonate with everyone and that’s freeing because they will even more resonate with those who want to hear them

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